WHY MOST PEOPLE GET COMFORTABLE IN GRUDGES By Ketch
Everybody wants to live life all the way happily. But it's totally not real for me to say or for you to say that we haven't met moments when we go very blue in our mood as a result of relating with one person and another. One of the very things that kill our mood is grudge. Having dislike for people, things, and situations have led most people to still hold on to this feeling as they think it's best after all if they just keep showing it before the other person. I have come up with 5 reasons why most people are comfortable in grudges. They are below:
1) They are ignorant of the reward of grudges: While they think that the reward for paying back those whom they think have wronged them by keeping a rigid and unfriendly post every time they meet their crush, the people they have a crush on might be somewhere else; perhaps taking a beer and laughing with people. Just the fact that you dwell in grudges, is like using the wrong tool for revenge on you that have been wronged. So you get more hurt. Where as you might be thinking that the other person will die soon just because you believe that they still understand that you still have a crush on them. You are using the wrong tool to revenge, but you still live in it comfortably because you want to make them pay.
2) They do not understand the value of being in a happy state: When you understand the value of happiness, you will be the one to always be conscious not to let grudge dwell on your mind. It robs you of your peace and joy. It eats you up gradually everyday and depresses you instantly every second you think about the wrong made on you by this person.
3) They think only about how other people see them: Most people in grudges think that the people whom they have a crush on, understand that they (those on crush) are the only ones that could make them (those you have a crush on)important when they accept them and get on freely with them. Well. That idea is what has made most people living in grudges, not to unlock their ownself, simply because they think that they have the keys to unlock those whom they think they must make happy and welcomed into their lives again, if they just get over it. This is funny. You need to unlock your ownself to be comfortable. You are the one harboring the grudge? Not them! So what holds them?
4)They have really found it hard to forgive their ownself: To forgive someone is easy as to forgive everyone. To forgive your ownself, becomes very hard. Put yourself in the position of this person who has wronged you. And ask yourself this question " if ever did him any wrong, will he ever forgive me? If you find it hard to say "yes"; you probably won't forgive anyone who did you that wrong because the first evaluation of the possibilities to forgive anyone, started first with the question you asked yourself which you were unable to give a " yes" for an answer. So what now? You just skipped that simple but personal quiz. And now, you chosed to live in grudge than to forgive. This is the case with most people who are comfortable in grudges.
5) Most people are comfortable in grudges because of their pride: They think that if they forgive people and be opened with them, it would mean that they can be hurt, offended the second time. And after this, they would be taken for a fool. So they chose to continue in grudge and keeping this face that goes like " hey! You see...you hurt me very badly. That was because I wasn't prepare for you. But I am prepared now. You see my face nor?" Yes. That's the kind of face they show before their offenders and will keep showing this on and on. People love to express dominion over others, especially when they want to put up a strick appearance not to be taken for granted for the first time or the second time. That's why most people still remain comfortably in grudges to prove this.
I believe there are many other reasons why people are comfortable in grudges. However, I hope the 5 reasons I came up with as above counts. Please correct my errors and you may chose to add more reasons in the comment box below. You may choose to share share share the post too. Thanks.
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