5 ways to break the ice and make that guy start talking

5 WAYS TO BREAK THE ICE AND MAKE THAT GUY START TALKING by ketch

Many of us meet people who are so interesting to us, but then most of us can't just have a grip on their stay because soon enough they walk away because of the silence. Here are 5 ways I have come up with to break the ice and make these type of people start talking. I have written it on the view of a lady trying to dig a guy. However, it might not be very effective the other way round. The tips are below:

1) Ask him personal things about himself: Personal things like "why do you sit and post your head like that?" This question is very personal but not threatening and too intrusive like the one that goes "what kind of job do you do and what amount are you paid as salary?" Woaw! The later question is a big bomb to just make that person feel very hot and uneasy and would want to find the slightest opportunity to evade any more questions from you concerning his standards of living and earnings.

2) Get him to ask you questions about yourself: Be polite to ask him to ask you questions about yourself. By doing this, you make him understand that you are very comfortable with the need for him to know something about you. Once he has this go ahead, he will understand that there is no reason for him not to open up to you too by asking you to ask questions about him. For example he might say "Okay, that's very similar to me. Do you want to know how I felt more different after experiencing the same feeling?" Boom! That's him talking! Why? Because both of you are open to share and talk about the things that make both of you related or familiar.

3) Ask him to settle a bet: By settling a bet, you are aking him to give his oppinion on something personal about you that you claim others have said about you. For example, you can ask him "most guys love to walk with girls who are not very short, I'm I really short? What do you think?" This question will create a feeling in him that his oppinion about you counts and he will give you his oppinion happily. You can even stand up and then ask him to come closer to you and see if you are really short or talk; however, you do this when you know he is not going to feel a type if he happends to be a very short person; and then you are really tall. This is a very powerful ice breaker ladies!

4) Compliment about him: If he looks handsome; say it! If he looks tall and smart; tell him! If he smiles really well; just make him know he does. This is a very effective way to make him start off and you might as well get very lucky to receive a lot of sincere comments about you that he has been conceilling all this while. It works well in dates!

5) Ask him for a favour: You may choose to tell him to hold your hair behind while you make your hair band more tighter. Or you may choose to ask him to raise his arm as support while you fit in your shoes well. Just ask him a favour. However, ask him a favour that should not take more of his time. He will be finding ways to get to talk to you after you have passed this barrier by making a gesture as you seeked this favour from him.

The above 5 ways to break the ice and make that guy start talking could be more. You can add in more to these. Please correct my errors and you may choose to share. Thanks for reading.

Why most people get comfortable in grudges.

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WHY MOST PEOPLE GET COMFORTABLE IN GRUDGES By Ketch

Everybody wants to live life all the way happily. But it's totally not real for me to say or for you to say that we haven't met moments when we go very blue in our mood as a result of relating with one person and another. One of the very things that kill our mood is grudge. Having dislike for people, things, and situations have led most people to still hold on to this feeling as they think it's best after all if they just keep showing it before the other person. I have come up with 5 reasons why most people are comfortable in grudges. They are below:

1) They are ignorant of the reward of grudges: While they think that the reward for paying back those whom they think have wronged them by keeping a rigid and unfriendly post every time they meet their crush, the people they have a crush on might be somewhere else; perhaps taking a beer and laughing with people. Just the fact that you dwell in grudges, is like using the wrong tool for revenge on you that have been wronged. So you get more hurt. Where as you might be thinking that the other person will die soon just because you believe that they still understand that you still have a crush on them. You are using the wrong tool to revenge, but you still live in it comfortably because you want to make them pay.


2) They do not understand the value of being in a happy state: When you understand the value of happiness, you will be the one to always be conscious not to let grudge dwell on your mind. It robs you of your peace and joy. It eats you up gradually everyday and depresses you instantly every second you think about the wrong made on you by this person.

3) They think only about how other people see them: Most people in grudges think that the people whom they have a crush on, understand that they (those on crush) are the only ones that could make them (those you have a crush on)important when they accept them and get on freely with them. Well. That idea is what has made most people living in grudges, not to unlock their ownself, simply because they think that they have the keys to unlock those whom they think they must make happy and welcomed into their lives again,  if they just get over it. This is funny. You need to unlock your ownself to be comfortable. You are the one harboring the grudge? Not them! So what holds them?

4)They have really found it hard to forgive their ownself: To forgive someone is easy as to forgive everyone. To forgive your ownself, becomes very hard. Put yourself in the position of this person who has wronged you. And ask yourself this question " if ever did him any wrong, will he ever forgive me? If you find it hard to say "yes"; you probably won't forgive anyone who did you that wrong because the first evaluation of the possibilities to forgive anyone, started first with the question you asked yourself which you were unable to give a " yes" for an answer. So what now? You just skipped that simple but personal quiz. And now, you chosed to live in grudge than to forgive. This is the case with most people who are comfortable in grudges.

5) Most people are comfortable in grudges because of their pride: They think that if they forgive people and be opened with them, it would mean that they can be hurt, offended the second time. And after this, they would be taken for a fool. So they chose to continue in grudge and keeping this face that goes like " hey! You see...you hurt me very badly. That was because I wasn't prepare for you. But I am prepared now. You see my face nor?" Yes. That's the kind of face they show before their offenders and will keep showing this on and on. People love to express dominion over others, especially when they want to put up a strick appearance not to be taken for granted for the first time or the second time. That's why most people still remain comfortably in grudges to prove this.

I believe there are many other reasons why people are comfortable in grudges. However, I hope the 5 reasons I came up with as above counts. Please correct my errors and you may chose to add more reasons in the comment box below. You may choose to share share share the post too. Thanks.

The secrete of a healthy smile

             THE SECRETE OF A HEALTHY SMILE By Ketch

Hello guys! Ever wonder about why some people look just the same every year with little or no visible changes about how aging they should go with time? Well. I didn't wonder about that. However it was brought to my concern when a few of my mates, friends, family and other people asked about the secrete of my ever looking young appearance. There are many reasons why this is so and these reasons are below with just a few I stated to them:

1) State of mind: There are people who can go all day worrying about little things and all manner of disappointments; whether based on those brought upon you daily, or the ones yesterday, past days, weeks, months, and years ago. Once your state of my is weary, you cannot express a healthy smile. Most people go all day searching for a solution to their weariness, whereas they should focus on developing a genuine way of expressing joy over sadness- a smile. Smile at your problems and take the wrinkles off.

2) Do not over look things: Live a simple life and do not expect too much. There is a saying that goes "too much expectation brings disappointment".

3) Be open to everyone but keep your guard on anyone: A healthy smile is driven more by confidence and the love to communicate with people. Most people have chosen not to express this simple expression; smile, because they mostly concentrate on how to take their guard and not be hurt, manipulated or riduculed by any circumstances in communication as they feel smiling is a weak and unsafe gateway for anyone to take you for granted. They miss the important thing here; confidence.! Once you have confidence in yourself, your smile becomes unlimited. People will always love to be around you because it equally lights them up. So smile!

4) Engage into activities that develops your habit positively: We express ourselves more better in the things that makes us delighted. Being in this process of delight is often expressed on our faces, commonly revealed on our cheeks; smile. These activities could be: singing, dancing, playing, talking, and more. The secrete of a healthy smile is revealed in the things that speaks more of our importance.

5) Forgive everyone, be charitable and understand your prayers: Forgiving people frees you. You do not want to live a life where you go totally down whenever the name of the people you dislike is being raised or when they appear before you. This is a big limitation that restricts your full expression of joy even before others. Do not tie your happiness to anyone's action on you. So smile all they way and stop regulating it each time you see this person. Also, learn to give to people. Once you give openly, you see the value of yourself to this people and this should trigger something great within you that will reveal that smile. Only when you give openly, the smile is not genuine and so not healthy.
Understand God that He has his time of getting back to you in every request you make before Him. You wouldn't want to be aggressive on everyone when you didn't expect what you prayed for just last night? Smile all the way and be rest assured that results will surely come soon.

6) Eat well: A healthy body of course has a healthy mind that reveals a healthy smile. That's when people will confirm that it's truely healthy. Well, it all comes from total willingness to express the smile.

- Keep your teeth clean.



I believe I have managed to come up with a few points behind a healthy smile. Please correct my errors and comment on the points which you think is responsible for a healthy smile. You may choose to share the post as well. Keep your smile healthy! Thanks! ;)

Why girls hurry into a relationship

WHY GIRLS HURRY INTO A RELATIONSHIP By Ketch

I have had many ladies talking to me about why they gave all of their selves to a guy so much in a rush. Most of them sounded like the whole thing is a race they must win and beat their fellow girlfriends; especially when they have discovered that some of their friends (girls) desire the same man. Others gave other reasons. Then I came up with 5 reasons why girls hurry into a relationship. The reasons are below:

1) They want to heal from a previous relationship: Most girls think that when they find a new partner or a new man, his presence will erode the unpleasant or bitter experiences they had with the previous guy. So they get to meet new guys straight forward, which to me sounded as a total benefit they must rip from the new guy first, which explains why most of these guys have to suffer a lot to meet up with the expectations of the ladies.

2) They want to set up a platform for marriage: Most girls have had times when they thought about settling down. When it gets to the level where they think that "oh time is not really on my side", they rush into finding the right man for them. Desperate girls want marriage without even looking at the criteria of a healthy one, so they delve into the quest of getting a guy who is near the taste of their dream man. Some even go straight as to find guys who aren't their taste and then, try to refine them to match their taste since time is running out on their side.

3)They want to check it in their to-do list as one of their accomplishments: Girls go to school with big dreams as well as noting which way they should attain it. But as time goes on, most girls, especially girls who are book conscious (bookworm) don't really care about getting the guys first until when they have had all of the degrees, the certificates and the like. So, they are happy having the papers, certificates as I will put it, after years of education; but then, one thing is left out- a man! Yes! A man. Now why did they not get this man earlier? it's because they have noted men to be part of their accomplishments only after when they must have had education to the fullest level first. So what next? They set in to look for the guys. The guy whom they have also noted in their to-do list in the past years. But...then! What really delays most girls in finding the exact match of the man of their dream as to what they have already drawn out on their paper is the fact that most guys are already taken or that it's just too hard to find that particular guy with the qualities these girls desire. Now what? Most of them get tired and hurry into the arms of any guy whom they think they can refine to their taste, especially when they think it's all about using money. Just like case number 2).

4) Most girls hurry into a relationship because of benefits: Especially when its the benefits are personal. Everyone desires a comfortable life, riches, fine people and all the like. Let me...settle with the word "riches". Yes! Riches is the main description for the reason why most girls hurry into a relationship. Most times, they do not care about what they see in the men, but only about what they get-money and luxuries. I believe this is the common reason why most girls would dump me for an ugly guy who has gotten more money then me. 

5) Most girls hurry into a relationship because of pressure: This one goes right back to family, friends and certain conditions that make them hurry into a relationship. Family wants you to get married or else you don't get certain privileges from your loved ones. Friends make you choose that guy because they have seen in him qualities that make him fit for you and..them. You are struggling with life and you think the best stop to get away with this condition is to get married. All of this boils down to one thing-pressure! Oh yes! And more.

Now I believe there are countless reasons why girls rush into a relationship which I have not mentioned. However, you may choose to add it up to the above reasons i came up with and also say what you think about them. Thanks for reading. You might want to share the post to.

Sometimes using other words that almost describes perfectionism to attain perfectionism, safes a lot of disappointments – Ketch Morgan

There is another way to find the good in you without necessarily getting perfectionism as the direct description. It’s all based in your mindset and determination where this little voice within you always says “try harder!” Achieving perfectionism with this inner voice is better enough than delving straight with the great ambition to get everything in a perfect way. This way, you do not get too disappointed while trying harder to be perfect.

-Ketch 

Having negative people around you is like having a constant flow of dust on a filter worn around the lead of a bottle with continuous supply of clean water – Ketch Morgan

Many people are lost today because they had or still have a misleading friend. Now how do you get to deal with a friend who always makes you feel bad and broken or someone who only shows you the wrong side of life and make you live in it? It’s simple as ABC. You do not need to kill or send them to Mars? You simply avoid them. If you still have someone in your life who drains you of your value and contaminates every good thing that comes into your life, you have got to avoid them. These type of people are the reason you are still living in doubt about what you really have and who you truly are.

These type of people are the reason why they shake you off to always see the evidence of how dirty and unfit you are. Whereas, they are the very reason for contaminating everything about you. You have got to avoid them to see, feel and engage in anything that gets into your life. They are the dust that blows around you and flows into your bottle and change your color. And they will always give you time to feel everything is ok, but then; when you face the little challenge in your life, when you are shaken; you discover that you are not really what you thought you were just because they are always within you. Clear your system from them and make your way clean by avoiding them. You do not need them and they should not keep getting into your system.

 -Ketch

Being compassionate and generous brings you to that level where all of your flaws are overwritten by the promising side of your efforts to the people whom you have helped – Ketch Morgan

An appreciative person in this case is simply telling you that you have been good all this while. And you should affirm this by truly realizing you are good after all. Why? Because that person has just made you see your value. Once you accept it, you are back on track! In the case where your effort to help others are sent back by ungrateful persons, you should think better to give it to the people who need it. However, you shouldn’t think less about yourself because someone was too dump to appreciate you? Or that someone denied to appreciate your effort simply because it was free. This is one big reason why people feel reluctant to help people because they always expect a ‘thank you’. To be successful with this approach to finding yourself, you should render these services exclusively to get to know what you are capable of doing for yourself that you always found it easier when you do the same thing for others. This is a drive! Do not expect appreciation. Believe you have done it right and it’s your best shot. When you see the positive outcome of the help, you become very happy and feel limitless to do more and more. Some people only get this joy when they are appreciated. Others get it when they truly believe in their selves. And believing in their selves is a very great attitude that have just been unlocked to tell them that they are on the level to do anything positive to change their own lives and how they feel. 
-Ketch